Comments on: Man Skills: Make A Decision

By: Smitty

Smitty — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 15:20:49 +0000

First of all, the example in the initial post isn’t a good one because the guy abruptly said he didn’t want to do what she suggested. That’s not really “deferring”.

Second, as for why men DO defer? There could a be number of reasons for this. They could have had too many bad experiences from their current or past girlfriends for making the “wrong” decision. They could be a little overly cautious after being bombarded with messages that men are stupid and insensitive and might decide that letting her decide is the safer choice.

Just my guess.

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By: Trebonte

Trebonte — Sun, 11 May 2008 22:04:58 +0000

Very sound advice. Being assertive in decision making like this is something that I’m working on myself. Besides proving yourself to be a man who can take charge, ‘people just like you when you make decisions for them.’ I say that jokingly but there is truth to be found in it.

By: Anon

Anon — Fri, 02 May 2008 18:43:43 +0000

Although there are some good points, I give you reasons why us men have a huge deal with this entire post.

Reason #1. Women are MOODY and down right CRAZY. Planning ahead works, if the person you’re with is generally stable. I find that majority of women aren’t stable and can change, along with their looks and preferences for just about everything, in a matter of minutes and sometimes seconds. Planning is nice but I wouldn’t count on it because one minute she would love to go to the theatre and the next minute she has a headache and she’s bloated so she wants to sit home and veg (typically follows a confrontation with the hallway mirror).

Reason #2 With women, it’s ALWAYS a test or some sort of trick. Come on, stick with reality. Women and their mental instability and lack of self-esteem will always force them to think that everyone is out to get them and that there’s always some sort of hidden meaning behind EVERYTHING YOU SAY AND DO.

By: Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map

Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 02:03:21 +0000

Hello Cameron, are you sure you are not getting the genders mixed up in your post??? In my case with my husband, it is the other way round. He complains that I frustrate him completely and women are the indecisive ones!

By: Darlene Norris

Darlene Norris — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 00:36:29 +0000

Your post rings so true, Cameron! My husband has the WORST time trying to decide what to order at a restaurant. It drives me up a tree sometimes! It’s nice to know it’s not just him. Good article!

By: ELK

ELK — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 22:26:43 +0000

I did the same thing in my marriage. And, like you said, it was either ’cause I was trying to be a “gentleman”, lazy, apathetic, or scared. Now that I’m dating, I’ve been very assertive (in a good way) and planned activities…and guess what , the women love it!

By: Frances

Frances — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:51:41 +0000

Great post!

My husband and I have that same conversation constantly, about EVERYTHING.