I have been seeing a woman for about 14 months or so and I’ve noticed we fight when we haven’t been talking enough. I feel like this really gets to the core of so many issues in life and especially relationships.

Problems with in-laws definitely come from lack of communication. People judge each other too harshly and thus conflict arises. Because communication wasn’t there (telling it like it is…not as it appears) erroneous judgments were made…thus leading to problems

So, communicate well and most of the time your problems will be cured

Cheers and Great Post!

Brad Spencer

My mother and stepfather conflicted about the five reasons you listed, and as a teenager night after night, over several years, hearing profanity laden screaming matches that started in the early evening and lasted to the early hours of the morning biases me towards not having the viewpoint that “conflict is good.”

By all means married couples should have regular thoughtful discussions about the issues raised in your list. But conflict always equals win-lose for those involved, not win-win.

I have just discovered your blog via the 28th Carnival of Personal Development and this is the first entry that I have read. I still aim to read some of your other posts with an open mind. This particular post steamed me up some.

Thanks

Gotta say though that #1 can and most often is responsible for all the others. Once you have that down, everything becomes much easier.

Marriage counseling classes highlight all five of these areas as the most crucial to marital success.